When we were struggling with infertility and drew closer to the three year mark, loved ones started running out of things to say to ease the pain. In the beginning, many would say, "keep the faith", "you'll be a mom", or the phrase I learned to dread, "it will happen". As time passed and IT didn't happen, they lost the easy cliches and words of wisdom because they couldn't ease my pain. I can almost remember the exact point when people said the two words I needed most to hear to ease the pain.
I'm sorry. Simple. True.
I use those two words on a daily basis with my students. You know, high school students can find drama in everything. Yet, in the past year, I have learned that I may not be able to right the situation but I can help a person in the moment by saying those two small words.
- when a parent is ailing
- when a friend loses a pregnancy
- when a friend has a broken heart
- when someone loses a child or a parent
- when someone is struggling with life choices
So, next time you want to try to "fix" a situation for someone, stop for a moment. Say you're sorry. There may be no other words necessary.